Meet Reuben Houser, MS LPCC

Reuben Houser MS, LPCC
he/him

You do need to work on yourself before your relationship can thrive.

Times have changed. For many couples:

Both partners are educated.
Both partners earn an income.
Both partners think critically about their careers.
Both partners want to be involved in their kids’ lives.
Both partners (should) know what kind of milk to buy and how to clean a stain out of the couch.

Yet, one partner is still expected to do all the emotional care-taking in the relationship.

For the past 10 years, I’ve helped my clients recognize and share the unseen burdens in their marriages.

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Training and Experience

Master of Science in Marriage, Couple, and Family Counseling

Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MN #1917
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Externship

EMDR Advanced Training (Trauma)
NeuroMeditation for Treating ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, and PTSD
Racial and Generational Trauma: Somatic Interventions for BIPOC Individuals
Applied Neuroscience for Treating Anxiety Certification
60+ Hours of Enneagram Personality Assessment Training
Flourish Wellness Collaborative Board Member

Specialties

Anxiety
Depression
Trauma
- Absent or abusive parent
- Betrayals, being cheated on
Becoming an Equal Partner in Marriage
Conflict Avoidance
Increasing the 4 Key Skills of Emotional Intelligence
ADHD in Relationships
Sex in Long-Term Relationships

Values

EQUITY AND JUSTICE

Equity means all people receiving what they need to succeed, Currently, each system in our country from healthcare to education is set up to benefit white, straight, cis men like myself. This is not the world I want to uphold. Watch the blog for more information.

NON-TRADITIONAL NORMS

Toxic masculinity hurts everyone.
Unhelpful gender norms and expectations have shaped our ideas of identity and partnership. I challenge myself and my clients to notice how outdated beliefs about masculinity can negatively influence how we act today.

Hey, Reuben.
Do you work with Men only?

No! I work with people who identify in many different ways.
Check out the FAQ section where I talk more about who I work with.

PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE

I get it.

Reuben Houser Male Therapist St. Paul Minnesota

While creating relationships has always come naturally to me, knowing what to do when my wife said, “We need to talk” did not.

As a cisgendered white male I was raised to avoid conflict in relationships and keep the peace.

Saying “Okay, you are right, I am sorry” and praying she wouldn’t be angry is just what men do, right? No. Because this isn’t the 1950s.

It was time for me to step up.
Luckily, both my wife and I went to school for Marriage and Family Therapy and worked relentlessly to understand our patterns, share honestly with each other, and practice an abundance of patience as we worked on ourselves individually.

It shouldn't take two master's degrees to have a successful marriage.
Learn from my 15 years of marriage and 10 years of clinical experience.

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