Therapy for Men Who Want More from Their Relationships
Learn the communication and emotional skills no one taught you.
In-person & online in St. Paul, Minnesota
YOU’RE A GOOD GUY
You’re here because you want to be a good husband and an engaged father.
But when conflict hits, you shut down, get reactive, or say what you think you're supposed to say just to keep the peace. You’re not the only one caught in this cycle.
Most men were never taught what to do instead.
Relationships require a different set of skills
Unlock the tools you’ve been missing.
With over a decade of clinical experience, I’ll help you learn how to stop the cycles of miscommunication, really connect, and build a strong and lasting marriage.
“I have experienced better communication and an improved relationship with my wife.
I have benefited from being able to discuss and process my thoughts and experiences openly and without judgement. I have appreciated having the regular routine for consistency and accountability to continue to think about, talk about, and take actions relative to my experiences and toward my goals.”
-R.K.
Helping Men in Relationships
Reconnect, Repair, and Grow
Whether it's communication issues, anxiety or depression, unresolved trauma, ADHD, or emotional distance, let's start unpacking what's really going on so that you can feel more secure in yourself and your relationship.
I work with men struggling with challenges like:
Shutting down emotionally
Reacting strongly in conflict
Feeling like roommates rather than a couple
ADHD or follow-through issues
Overwhelm in parenting
Work stress spilling into home life
Past relationship trauma, as a kid or adult
Infidelity and betrayal
Depression or irritability
Difficulty expressing emotions
Heightened anxiety or existential worry
Healing after a divorce or breakup
Because these challenges are so common, I focus on three key areas where men often get stuck and where the right kind of therapy can make a real difference.
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THERAPY SERVICES
Men & Marriage
Therapy for men in committed partnerships who was to stay present, communicate better and build a relationship they love.
Trauma & EMDR
Shut down or blow up? Your past might be hijacking your emotions. EMDR therapy helps men heal past experiences so that they can show up differently with the people they care about the most.
ADHD in Relationships
Counseling for men whose ADHD symptoms—like reactivity, forgetfulness, or rejection sensitivity—are disrupting life with their partners and friends.
THERAPIST
COUNSELOR
EDUCATOR
MEET REUBEN
I’ve spent the last decade helping men improve their marriages and I’ve walked this path myself.
As a licensed therapist with a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, I bring both professional training and personal experience from 15 years of marriage to the counseling I provide.
My approach is evidence-based.
Personally tested.
Made for men ready to grow in their relationships.
Let me tell you why I get it and why I care so much.
What Makes This Therapy Different?
This isn’t generic therapy. It’s focused, personalized work for men who’ve built successful careers and want their relationships to feel just as solid.
Often, they’ve been relying on the same strategic thinking and drive that’s made them effective leaders at work but those strengths don’t always translate at home.
With my approach you’ll uncover where your strategies are backfiring and apply proven psychological principles that don’t feel stuffy, condescending, or disconnected from real life.
You’ve Got What It Takes.
And getting started is simple. Book a free, 20-minute consultation to get clear on your next steps. See if this type of support is right for you.
Recurring arguments or past hurts don’t have to keep running the show. Start using more effective strategies today.